When Banks Ramsey first posted a video of himself preaching the gospel to his newborn daughter, he wasn’t trying to become a voice for fatherhood.
It was a simple moment of laughter his wife, Abigail, captured on camera, one they shared with family and friends. Little did they know that moment would resonate with thousands of people.
More than a year later, that one video has grown into a community of more than 77,000 followers watching as Banks navigates faith, family, and fatherhood.
Through his reels about marriage, parenting, and moments with his 15-month-old daughter, Banks is influencing a generation of fathers to embrace the calling God has placed on their lives.
Finding Out He Was Going to Be a Father
When Banks Ramsey found out he was going to be a father just seven weeks after getting married, he felt what many dads feel: excitement, uncertainty, and the weight of what was coming.
“We couldn’t believe it. We were overwhelmed with a number of emotions. For me, the first emotion was excitement. Then, a few minutes later, it became a little daunting. We both found ourselves crying. It was scary, exciting, beautiful, all the things.”
Banks and his wife knew they were going to have this baby. They decided to trust God with the “how”.
“God met us right there. During those nine months,” says Banks, “He showed up and prepared us to become a father and a mother.”
How Fatherhood Changed Him
Becoming a father didn’t just change Banks’ schedule or priorities; it changed his heart.
“One of the most surprising things is how my heart has softened,” says Banks, “There’s this new level of sensitivity and a new outlook that I have on the world, and even on women and how God made them. I am so thankful that I get to be a girl dad.”
Our Heavenly Father as an Example
Banks, who leads the young adults’ ministry at Restoration Church in Alpharetta, Georgia, says fatherhood gave him a new perspective on God.
“I think that I have always seen God as just my Savior who loves me. He laid His life down for me at Calvary on the cross so that I could be in a relationship with Him. He gave sacrificially, selflessly, so much for my sake.
Now, as a father, I understand, biblically speaking, that my role is to represent and model that same type of love, that same type of care, that same type of protection for both my wife and my daughter.”
That realization has also reshaped how Banks views the responsibilities of fatherhood.
“I think specifically in becoming a father, I’m realizing that there are major sacrifices that need to be made, that must be made, to give Brecklyn what she needs, which is the love, support, care, and attention that a father can bring. So, it’s certainly shifted my outlook on everything.”
Leading a home requires sacrifice, but it’s not a calling fathers were ever meant to carry alone. Every father needs encouragement, wisdom, and other men who will remind him of his calling.
Why Fathers Need Community
Sharing his journey on social media, Banks quickly realized that other men were searching for guidance on how to lead their families with faith.
“I think men don’t show themselves emotionally enough. It’s very vulnerable for a man to get emotional. It’s very vulnerable for him to talk about sensitive topics with his family.
I receive messages all the time from men saying, ‘This gave me permission to lead my family spiritually.’ Their dads never showed them how to lead spiritually or how to be vulnerable with their wives and children.”
Those messages have reinforced something Banks believes deeply: men need community, especially other men they can be honest with as they learn, grow, and lead their families together.
Speaking Life Over Your Children
Banks knows the value of a father’s presence, and his advice for men focuses specifically on a father’s words.
“Your words have power,” says Banks, “So be careful with your words as fathers. Let them be sources of life, words that construct and build, not tear down.”
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” — Proverbs 18:21
And Banks isn’t wrong about the power of a father’s words. Research shows that children with emotionally engaged fathers show better self-esteem, stronger emotional health, and better social adjustment.
Banks’ prayer is for his daughter to experience his words as life-giving and that she’ll know unconditional love.
“If there’s one thing I would want my daughter to say at my funeral, it’s that my dad truly believed in me. He believed in the calling on my life. He believed in the purpose on my life.”
The Importance of a Father’s Role
Banks uses his platform to speak because he understands the importance of encouraging fathers, mothers, and families in raising their children in God’s ways. He hopes that each father would bravely embrace the calling God has placed on their lives.
“I wish fathers understood how important their role is in their child’s life,” says Banks, “That love, that belief in your child, is so powerful.”
His advice to other men is simply to love their children with God’s unconditional love.
“Children want to be fully known and fully loved. So as a father, fully love them no matter what they’ve done, fully love them no matter what they say, how they perform. Just be that source of steadfast love for them.”
At Save the Storks, we believe in the power of a father’s “yes”. Hearing fathers like Banks, we’re reminded that a “yes” doesn’t end the day a child is born. Fatherhood is a lifelong calling.
It’s a daily choice to lead with faith, love sacrificially, and speak life over the next generation.
